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Nonviolent Communication
By Marshall Rosenberg
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“there's a nonviolent communication book if folks are into the framework and want to check it out.”
“its name is nonviolent communication and it's about effective ways of communication and understanding the people and their needs”
“non-violent communication that whole framework of just like focus on what you see”
“the book itself for nonviolent communication or the never split the difference both of which are awesome”
“It's somewhat related to nonviolent communication, which is what you touched on”
“this is similar to non-violent communication”
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